When I went through a breakup at age 29 I was worried that I was too old to be newly single. Well, I’m now 31 and newly single again, but I’m no longer worried about it. I’m two years older than I was when I first thought I was too old to be single, and yet I’m far more comfortable with being single now. The only other difference between newly single me at 31 and newly single me at 29? My mindset.
This time, I’m not fretting at all, because I know that it’s OK to be single at 31. (Note: It’s also OK to be single at 29, or 30, or 30-whatever age you are).
Society has an unrelenting obsession with branding anyone over 30 as past it; on a downhill slope; too old; running out of time. I am here to tell you that 31 is YOUNG and that being single at 31 is ABSOLUTELY FINE. Ahem, sorry for yelling.
The UK’s Office for National Statistics measured in 2020 that female life expectancy is about 83 years (it’s 82.9 years if you work for NASA and demand specifics). If we use this figure as the age you’ll pop your clogs, then you’ve still got 52 years of life to live. You’re not even close to being halfway through your life.
If you wanted to, you could actually have 52 one-year relationships between now and the age of 83. You could fall for a different person every single year and live 52 different love stories. If that seems like too much hard work, you could have 26 two-year relationships, or 13 four-year relationships, or even 5 relationships that last ten years!
There is so. much. time.
Don’t write yourself off just yet, my love.
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